for them. Their father's abused them and they are fatherless now. It's funny I have been there done that. There were plenty of father's day's where I sat and back and said poor me, I don't have a dad, so sad, so pittiful....etc.
Don't get me wrong not saying that you are all saying that, but I just know the feeling I know the sadness, the emptiness when
this day rolls around and you don't have the love of a "daddy" in your life. It's not easy and takes a long time to get past.
I don't know why, but it does. Something I realized this year is it no longer matters. Yep, no
dad here....so what. I no longer have to look at the day as a negative and heartache. I look at it now as just another day.
I think that the forgiveness has shed a new light on this day as well as many other
days. It doesn't take away some of the pain or some of the thoughts that creep in, but it does take care of the pain all of the time and on days like today when everyone is wanting to be with their father, when everyone is celebrating
their "daddy" and you have no one to celebrate.
I want to suggest to all of you sit down and write your thoughts out. Release all the hurt and agony in your soul....write your
abuser a letter and let them know what your feeling and thinking --- get it out FIND YOUR VOICE. Once you have all
your thoughts down on paper....seal them up. Mail them to the abuser, or burn
them or put them away somewhere, whatever works for you.
Then sit down and really pray about forgivness....remember you are forgiving to release your soul into your new
life---to the beginning of the rest of your life....to a new start, a fresh start, a beginning that you have been waiting
It is possible.....to begin your new life now....find your ULTIMATE FORGIVENESS!!
Excerpt from Dr. Ned Hallowell's book Dare to Forgive:
What does it mean to give up your title to anger and resentment or to refuse to
live under their rule? It means that you set yourself free from those feelings.
You no longer let those feelings own you; you disown them. When you feel the
yoke of hatred start to take you in its grip, you step out. You lift it off. You
renounce it. You put on the yoke of love, instead.
When you've been
hurt, why on earth would you do this? In order to improve your own life. As
Joanna North, a philosopher and renowned expert on forgiveness, put it: "What is
annulled in the act of forgiveness is not the crime itself but the distorting
effect that this wrong has upon one's relations with the wrongdoer and perhaps
Throughout her writing, North emphasizes how forgiving (or
accepting forgiveness) makes people healthier and happier. As she says, "Through
forgiveness the pain and hurt caused by the original wrong are released, or at
least they are not allowed to mar the whole of one's being for all
Love to all, praying for lives to be changed.