Isn't it true that in life we all hold many titles? Mother, daughter, wife, father, sister, brother, grandparents, manager, volunteer, lead, supervisor, etc. It is true that all of us have many titles that follow us around. When you become a parent you are now: "Tyler's mom" or recently when my title changed to "director" at work, titles are always changing or new titles are being added to a our repertoire.
I have never been a big fan of titles, I have always thought that they don't do a person justice. Like I mentioned above, I love being "Tyler's mom", but I am definitely more than that. Or recently being introduced to someone named "______'s sister" -- that told me nothing about the person that I was meeting or who they were as a person.
This past year and half, has been a pivotal time for me. If you have read this post: My Aha Moment, that was the beginning of a man-hunt....or in other terms, trying to figure out WHO I AM! I always blamed by father for what he did to me, but I realized that he was guilty as charged in his actions, but he didn't take the "real me", I just had to let the "real me" out again!
My "father" took advantage of his title, truly the title of "father" said nothing about him as a person. Too bad for him, he could have had it all. The other thing I feel quite strongly about is that titles don't come bundled with respect, respect is earned. To be called someone's "friend" is such an honor, I never take a title like that for granted---I would shine as that title through and through like I would do with all my other titles.
In my personal man-hunt....I realized that I love being all of those titles above, I love doing for others, I love loving people, I love fighting for things that I am passionate about -- but WHO AM I? I think that whoever I am is every evolving -- that lifes sends you situations and people that sometimes impact you and you are never the same. Doesn't mean I am changing for others, just that everthing and everyone that is put in my path or I am put in theirs, has an impact on me and my life - ever evolving who I am. That is the beauty of life.
So -- yes I am still working on WHO I AM...but what I can tell you, that I will NEVER go back to being the almost 300# person that I once was..And that during my man-hunt, I have learned that I am athletic, I love sports, I love the outdoors and everything that comes with it, I love life, I love my family, I love my friends -- and I want to be the best me to all of them that I can be! Thinking about all of this....most of this is who I was 20 years ago...just lost sight of me, in amongst everything else.
Don't let titles get in the way of you being who you truly are -- it's a great thing to know yourself and share the whole you with everyone you know and everyone you don't. Be the BEST you that you can be!
"I love that I have such wonderful people in my life, that mold, shape and teach me to be a better person ♥ Always be yourself you never know who's life you may be changing ♥" (Thanks again Sharma!)
Praying for lives to be changed, love to you all!
-P